How Important is Sex in a Relationship?

Let's be honest, sex is important in a relationship. Some of you are thinking, "damn straight it is", and others may be thinking, "it's not the end all be all, and it's not that important." Well everyones right because no one can tell you eitherwise. But I can tell you what I believe the majority to be.

I actually think it depends on the emotional strength of the individuals and not the relationship. If two people are strong in their belief for abstinance or put sex on the back burner, it's because they're emotionally strong and secure in themselves that if the other person has a problem with it, they're ready to say "nice knowing you and buh-bye." Love is more prevelent in this type of relationship rather than the physical act of it; the physical act is seen as making love rather than sex.

Another case is, one or both people in the relationship are not emotionally strong or secure in themselves, and they feel sex is leverage in sustaining the relationship. This could stem from lacking a father figure in the person's life, abuse (extreme cases), early sexual development and experimentation, etc. etc. I don't know all the answers but those are the few floating at the top of my head.

Another-nother case is, if sex isn't in the equation of the relationship then it's a deal breaker. Some cultures are more physical and use to the constant show of affection, and that usually leads to sex. I mean, if you're constantly touching and making out then it's gonna lead to it, right? And let's be real, some of us are straight nymphos and don't require the security of a relationship anyway...you know who you are. You damn freaks! Hahaha just kidding. Honestly, sex is like forbidden fruit, once you've had it there's no going back.

I think the majority of people in the world fall in the insecure group. That's because of the effects of parents divorcing (50% divorce rate), poverty, lack of education, dysfunctional family, you name it--it's belongs here. It's sad huh?

What do you guys think? Am I right, wrong or crazy?

Do me a favor and fill out the survey (btw, the survey feature is smart whoever added that), it's anonymous so don't worry. I'm curous how important sex is to others and I'm sure you are too. When you cast your vote be sure to be honest with yourself! Oh, and I'm asking in the present tense, now at this time in your life.

Have a happy day everybody.

Great post!

I don't think you're crazy. I think you're completely right.

I think you forgot to mention the last alternative, where two people are emotionally sound, happy and enjoy sex too.

I will def test drive a car before investing on it!

Do you remember the Sex and The City episode where Charlotte test drove her fiance the night before her wedding and it turned out to be a lemon! LOL!

I will admit that it would be very hard to be in a loving relationship without being able to physically express that love.

lemon? girl i thought it was a libby's vienna sausage and a 2 min sack?

LOL! Pretty much that.

Sex is just about the most fun two people can have without laughing, and it certainly should be part of a loving relationship. It can be a great stress buster, and a legitimate way of expressing your love for each other. While it's possible to be in a relationship without sex, it's so much more filling for both partners if they are enjoying a happy, healthy sex life.

Depends on the relationship of two people, in my opinion. But yes, sex is definitely plays an important role in a relationship. In my experience, more sex=less fight, less sex=more fight.

I think it is a very important part in a romantic relationship. We are sexual by nature and it is a beautiful part of life.

I can honestly say that I fit into the group that you didn't include. I'm in the group of people who are SECURE and who feel that sex is an incredibly important part of a marriage and/or significant other relationship.

For many monogamous people, their partner, is the one and only person they experience the intimacy with that compliments sex so beautifully.
It's a type of love that a person isn't going to experience with a parent or child. It's something very, very special.

To be sexually active with a beloved partner is also an indication of great health. Which comes first? The chicken or the egg?
Great health can lead to very physically and emotionally satisfying sex and great sex can improve our health. Need I say more?

I belive sex is very important in a relationship and I think it's very healthy and fun too. It also burns the calories, you know!